Two in one day?!! Amazing.

While doing his bi-daily cruise around the blogo-sphere, the Lost One was incredibly happy to find this post over on Boundless-The Line. The Lost One was happy to see this post for several reasons, 1) (and most importantly) He has a little Man crush on Suzanne Hadley's writing, and was thus glad to see her writing an article (Now we know this blog is already old hat, it will no doubt see its first restraining order, any minute now...), 2) He needed SOMETHING to blog on and didn't want to do what he usually does in that situation...Steal something from Ace.
3) as a child of Divorce, the Lost One is intimately familiar with divorce, and thus has an opinion (and an expert one at that). On to the article. In a response to an article from MSN, Ms. Hadley comments on the authors lack of enthusiasm for marriage saying:

I find it sad that the author refers to those who can't afford divorce as casualties. I'm not naïve to his meaning, but excluding abusive situations, casualty -- "a person or thing injured, lost, or destroyed" according to Websters -- seems like the wrong word. This perspective views a difficult marriage as a threat to personal happiness. Well, yeah. But that's why vows include "for better, for worse."

While the Lost One applauds the sentiments, he is bitter and jaded enough to wonder, is this trend of not divorcing really a good thing? Really, the Lost One is pro-marriage. But in our self centric culture one has to wonder if the participants in these not divorces are actually taking the time to honestly evaluate their own failings in the marriage, or merely counting time (and scoring points [in a game where there are only losers {none more then the children}] at one another's expense) until they can get a divorce. The fact of the matter is that the Lost One's own parents' divorce hardly resulted in behaviour that was the epitome of Chivalry and Champagne. While it is His hope that none would divorce, allowing a divorce that is much more restrictive (as indeed, most are when serious religious beliefs are followed [In the Christian faith, Jesus had some baaaaaaaaad things to say about divorce]), that removes a partner from the joys of the relationship, and the warmth of love by disallowing remarriage, and by serving a touch of social stigma might just be the thing to encourage conservative thinking. It sure worked for one of the Lost Parents. Any ways, just my thoughts on the subject, for what it's worth. Hasta.